Trauma caused by sexual assault is a silent battle that leaves deep emotional and psychological scars on those who suffer. while many people endure it, the stigma surrounding it often forces the survivors to remain silent and ashamed. let’s break the taboo, uncover the untold truths about sexual trauma and explore empowering steps to kickstart the healing journey.
Not every sexual assault is violent in nature. In most cases, individuals experience assault through coercion, manipulation, or the threat of harm or humiliation, rather than direct physical force. Being pressured into performing sexual activity makes the victim feel helpless and or leaves them with a sense of fear which leads to sexual trauma. This trauma can stem from a single event or series of such events and each person will experience and process this trauma in their own unique way.
Victims may experience a range of emotions from confusion and guilt to intense fear and isolation. Understanding how to deal with sexual assault victims is essential to support and create a space for healing.
Overcoming the shame
The person who has experienced sexual trauma often feels a profound sense of shame, which can stop them from sharing their traumatic experience with others. This secrecy will allow the perpetrator to continue the abuse, leaving the victim feeling trapped. So the first step toward healing is making the victim acknowledge that the fault lies entirely with the aggressor, not with them.
Letting go and moving forward
The survivor must avoid replaying the incident and questioning what they could have done differently. Accepting that what happened is in the past can help them focus on moving forward with their life. Although it’s natural to see what could have been done in hindsight, this perspective is rarely available in the moment of trauma. Recognising this can be an important part of the recovery process. Never allow anyone to say that ‘it is your fault’ or ‘you asked for it’ because people’s comments can make a greater impact on your mental health.
Prioritising your safety
If you find yourself in an unsafe environment or a relationship, it is important to leave as soon as possible, sexual assault is often done by someone who knows us, so distancing yourself at the first time of discomfort is very crucial. Reach out to people whom you trust, either talk with your parents or go to someone you can rely on. Remember you are always protected by law and support is available to help you stay safe.
Protecting both physical and emotional well-being
Dealing with sexual trauma by yourself is very overwhelming and challenging. It is important to seek help from a mental medical professional or a counsellor to address the fear before it escalates into something more severe like a phobia or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Most of the time people who encounter sexual assault end up with substance abuse or engage in self-harming behaviours. These actions are a result of a loss of control over oneself. In such cases, a mental health counsellor or psychiatrist will be able to identify the best course of treatment and help you overcome it.
Surround yourself with people you trust
After facing a sexual assault it will be very difficult to trust others, even those who mean no harm. To rebuild the trust, you should surround yourself with people you care about such as family, close friends or trusted relatives. Engaging in conversation and spending quality time with these people can help you recover fast and feel more safe and secure. Never seek comfort from social media, as interacting and oversharing with strangers can sometimes pose a greater risk. Focus on creating supportive relationships that can aid in your healing journey.
Do self-care to relax and calm your mind
Practising self-care can play a vital role in helping you heal from the trauma of sexual assault. Taking time to relax and calm your mind is essential in the recovery process. Here are some self-care tips to support your emotional and mental well-being:
- Practising mindfulness & meditation: Deep breathing, mindfulness exercises, and guided meditation can all help you maintain your focus in the present moment and reduce anxiety.
- Engage in physical activities: Physical activity, such as yoga, walking, or dancing, can help relieve stress and enhance mood by increasing endorphins.
- Express your emotions: Writing a journal, drawing, or engaging in other creative endeavours can be helpful ways to deal with difficult emotions and regain self-control.
- Quality sleep: Make sleep a priority by establishing a relaxing atmosphere. Sleep is necessary for emotional balance and mental clarity.
- Set healthy boundaries: Avoid feeling compelled to participate in conversations or activities that trigger discomfort. It’s fine to guard your emotional space and go at your own pace.
- Seek help when needed: Self-care also includes recognising when professional assistance is required. Don’t be afraid to contact a therapist or a support group to help you through the recovery process.
Introducing the above practices in your daily life can help you take a positive path towards regaining a sense of peace and regaining self-control in your life.
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